Dating is for the birds
Dear Boys - A little romance, a few compliments, just be nice. Is that so hard?"
I saw that written somewhere and it made me laugh. Has anyone else noticed how dating seems totally different than how it use to be? I know I haven't been in the dating world since I was in college but it wasn't THAT long ago. One of my single friends and I went out last week and we started talking about one of our favorite subjects....guys. She laid everything out there for me .... gave me all the rules and warnings of dating in your mid twenties. Can I just say... I am not thrilled.
In high school we use to call it "going out." (at least we did at my school) I know when you are in high school everything gets blown out of proportion and seems sooo dramatic but looking back now, those were the easy days. The first two rules my dad had in our house about dating - 1. I wasn't allowed to date until I was 16 and 2. The guy had to come to my house and have dinner with my family before he could take me out. Of course this rule didn't last very long after my dad realized what he would be in for.:) Even so, I am surprised the first few dates I had willingly came over and had dinner with my family - it did not seem to bother them. Now days... it is impossible to get a guy to take you to dinner at all...even without the family.
What has happened to calling in advance and asking a girl out on an actual date? When did "lets meet up at a bar later tonight with all of his friends" or "lets hang out at your house.... but by the way I wont be able to come over until around 11pm...you know after I hang out with my buddies and am on my way to being drunk" become dating?
Ok - if you are a guy and you are reading this maybe you are thinking ... well you are just choosing the wrong guys. I understand how you would be thinking that and I am sure all of my single girl friends were thinking that in the beginning too... but take a minute to think back to the last time you called a girl .... at LEAST two days in advance to ask her out on actual date. One where you had to do some actual planning. Are you being honest with yourself??
I miss the days when dating was fun and easy. When you go out and have a fun night just getting to know someone. It is so complicated now...there are so many "rules" and "games" people play. Whats the point? You either like each other...or you don't.
From another blogger -"I'm sure it's just as difficult for a man to find a nice woman, as it is for a woman to find a nice guy.It's just the most complicated subject ever. Dating sucks. So instead of this 'stop global warming' maybe we can try and say "stop these dating games"."
Thats pretty funny but its the truth. But....I guess if dating was so easy, there wouldn't be so many single people out there, right? :)
I saw that written somewhere and it made me laugh. Has anyone else noticed how dating seems totally different than how it use to be? I know I haven't been in the dating world since I was in college but it wasn't THAT long ago. One of my single friends and I went out last week and we started talking about one of our favorite subjects....guys. She laid everything out there for me .... gave me all the rules and warnings of dating in your mid twenties. Can I just say... I am not thrilled.
In high school we use to call it "going out." (at least we did at my school) I know when you are in high school everything gets blown out of proportion and seems sooo dramatic but looking back now, those were the easy days. The first two rules my dad had in our house about dating - 1. I wasn't allowed to date until I was 16 and 2. The guy had to come to my house and have dinner with my family before he could take me out. Of course this rule didn't last very long after my dad realized what he would be in for.:) Even so, I am surprised the first few dates I had willingly came over and had dinner with my family - it did not seem to bother them. Now days... it is impossible to get a guy to take you to dinner at all...even without the family.
What has happened to calling in advance and asking a girl out on an actual date? When did "lets meet up at a bar later tonight with all of his friends" or "lets hang out at your house.... but by the way I wont be able to come over until around 11pm...you know after I hang out with my buddies and am on my way to being drunk" become dating?
Ok - if you are a guy and you are reading this maybe you are thinking ... well you are just choosing the wrong guys. I understand how you would be thinking that and I am sure all of my single girl friends were thinking that in the beginning too... but take a minute to think back to the last time you called a girl .... at LEAST two days in advance to ask her out on actual date. One where you had to do some actual planning. Are you being honest with yourself??
I miss the days when dating was fun and easy. When you go out and have a fun night just getting to know someone. It is so complicated now...there are so many "rules" and "games" people play. Whats the point? You either like each other...or you don't.
From another blogger -"I'm sure it's just as difficult for a man to find a nice woman, as it is for a woman to find a nice guy.It's just the most complicated subject ever. Dating sucks. So instead of this 'stop global warming' maybe we can try and say "stop these dating games"."
Thats pretty funny but its the truth. But....I guess if dating was so easy, there wouldn't be so many single people out there, right? :)
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