"Wipe your mouth theres a tiny bit of bullshit around your lips"
( Just so you know that comment is on a T-shirt that I plan to buy so I can parade around in it)
Guys are so confusing …just when I think I am starting to get a read on you, you have to throw me something completely out from left field. Whoa, where did that come from??
"I wouldn’t say my love life is dead, but the buzzards are circling." – This quote is pretty funny, what is NOT funny is that I can totally relate. I hate to be the girl who blogs about her "love life" or lack thereof, but when I talk to my friends about it I am at a loss for words. Having nothing to say is very unusual for me. First let me just start off by saying…I am NOT looking to settle down anytime soon. So I use the term "love life" very loosely. (I am basically talking about dating) I am recently divorced and was in a relationship pretty soon after that and now it has left me with what I believe is called commitment phobia - so dating is a start. I am beginning to think maybe I should take up a new hobby like knitting and swear off even casual dating. Keep reading to find out why...
Basically, my question is simple and straight forward (that’s how things should be - take a hint)– how do you know if a guy really likes you? I know this sounds ridiculous and you probably want to answer – well if you have to question whether or not he likes you then he probably doesn’t. Sounds easy enough, right?? WRONG!!! What is so frustrating to me is to verbally hear someone say…you are so great, I really like you, I want to hang out…blah blah and then it’s like they disappear from the planet, without a trace. Am I missing something here?? One day you are all about getting to know me and the next day …buzzards circling. I don’t hear from you for a while…and then all the sudden I look at my phone and it is the strangest thing… your number keeps coming up. Guess they didn’t get cell phone service on Mars and the aliens finally realized they couldn’t read your mind either and so they suddenly decided to beam you back down to earth. Lets stop just a minute so I can clarify, (this is something I am adjusting to) I do know if you are "dating"someone they are not required to call you everyday or even every other day but wouldnt you want to have some kindof communication with the other person...especially if you "liked" them. I probably sound a little harsh right now but my complaint is a valid one…if you just want to be friends or if you don’t like me….why cant you just be honest and leave it at that. I am all about hanging out with guys that are just friends. In fact, I wish I had more of those so I could be asking you for advice directly instead of blogging about this…ha ha. In high school and college the majority of my friends were guys so I am ok with just being your friend. You must be afraid if you tell me that you just want to be friends, I am going to turn psycho bi*** on you? I can tell you right now….if you lead me on, only call me when you are drunk and its obvious you are not even going to remember the conversation the next day, or I later find out you have a girlfriend or wife (which seems to be happening to me lately) I will go psycho b**** on you and I will be rallying up my girls as well. Just have the courtesy to be honest with me, I promise you I am a big girl…I think I can handle it.
Honesty is key in any type of relationship. It is important to have this from the very beginning. It seems like a lot of my single friends are running into this problem as well. If the person is going to lie to you about the small insignificant things…they are probably going to lie to you about the big IMPORTANT things as well. Can you imagine what the world would be like if everyone was completely honest about everything. If you did not have the capability to tell a lie. Wow…things would get interesting but at least there would be no questioning how someone felt about you. They are either honest and like you.....or honest and don't like you but at least you will not be disappointed after getting your hopes up. I hate disappointment!
Am I going out on a limb by saying I think alot of times guys are not really sure what they want? I get advice from my girlfriends who say...oh play hard to get...that will make him really want you. Ok, let me just repeat myself in this blog I HATE playing games. (See -older blog-Dating is for the Birds) Doesn't this fall into a game category?? "Too often, the thing you want most is the one thing you can't have. Desire leaves us heartbroken , it wears us out. But as tough as wanting something can be, the people who suffer the most are the ones who don't know what they want." This is sooo true but it makes me feel a little bit better. Someone who flips back and forth - liking you one day and not liking you the next - is confused. Maybe they don't know what they want - they want to be single....they want to be in a relationship. They want to be with a blonde....they want to be with a brunette. The thing is...until they figure out what it is they want, do they have to take me on the emotional roller coaster ride as well? People like this should come equipped with an instruction manual as well as a HUGE warning label - "WARNING: People suffering from anxiety, over analyzing syndrome, fear of commitment and previous heartbreak...PROCEED WITH CAUTION. Be sure to Buckle Up because you are in for a bumpy ride. " A warning sign like this could be helpful for someone like me. I will be the first to tell you, in the end playing games that are at the cost of someone elses feelings will ultimately come back to bite you in the butt. You will either get hurt in a relationship down the line or eventually you will want the person back and want a second chance....but by then its to late. I believe in karma - what goes around comes around.
So I need some help here. Words mean nothing to me anymore because it seems like the ones that say all the right things are the ones that keep you guessing about whether or not they like you. It all goes back to that t-shirt -dont lie and tell me something because you think I want to hear it.
Now I am giving you a fair warning...if you are of the male gender and are reading this and decide to leave me a comment…tread carefully.
Guys are so confusing …just when I think I am starting to get a read on you, you have to throw me something completely out from left field. Whoa, where did that come from??
"I wouldn’t say my love life is dead, but the buzzards are circling." – This quote is pretty funny, what is NOT funny is that I can totally relate. I hate to be the girl who blogs about her "love life" or lack thereof, but when I talk to my friends about it I am at a loss for words. Having nothing to say is very unusual for me. First let me just start off by saying…I am NOT looking to settle down anytime soon. So I use the term "love life" very loosely. (I am basically talking about dating) I am recently divorced and was in a relationship pretty soon after that and now it has left me with what I believe is called commitment phobia - so dating is a start. I am beginning to think maybe I should take up a new hobby like knitting and swear off even casual dating. Keep reading to find out why...
Basically, my question is simple and straight forward (that’s how things should be - take a hint)– how do you know if a guy really likes you? I know this sounds ridiculous and you probably want to answer – well if you have to question whether or not he likes you then he probably doesn’t. Sounds easy enough, right?? WRONG!!! What is so frustrating to me is to verbally hear someone say…you are so great, I really like you, I want to hang out…blah blah and then it’s like they disappear from the planet, without a trace. Am I missing something here?? One day you are all about getting to know me and the next day …buzzards circling. I don’t hear from you for a while…and then all the sudden I look at my phone and it is the strangest thing… your number keeps coming up. Guess they didn’t get cell phone service on Mars and the aliens finally realized they couldn’t read your mind either and so they suddenly decided to beam you back down to earth. Lets stop just a minute so I can clarify, (this is something I am adjusting to) I do know if you are "dating"someone they are not required to call you everyday or even every other day but wouldnt you want to have some kindof communication with the other person...especially if you "liked" them. I probably sound a little harsh right now but my complaint is a valid one…if you just want to be friends or if you don’t like me….why cant you just be honest and leave it at that. I am all about hanging out with guys that are just friends. In fact, I wish I had more of those so I could be asking you for advice directly instead of blogging about this…ha ha. In high school and college the majority of my friends were guys so I am ok with just being your friend. You must be afraid if you tell me that you just want to be friends, I am going to turn psycho bi*** on you? I can tell you right now….if you lead me on, only call me when you are drunk and its obvious you are not even going to remember the conversation the next day, or I later find out you have a girlfriend or wife (which seems to be happening to me lately) I will go psycho b**** on you and I will be rallying up my girls as well. Just have the courtesy to be honest with me, I promise you I am a big girl…I think I can handle it.
Honesty is key in any type of relationship. It is important to have this from the very beginning. It seems like a lot of my single friends are running into this problem as well. If the person is going to lie to you about the small insignificant things…they are probably going to lie to you about the big IMPORTANT things as well. Can you imagine what the world would be like if everyone was completely honest about everything. If you did not have the capability to tell a lie. Wow…things would get interesting but at least there would be no questioning how someone felt about you. They are either honest and like you.....or honest and don't like you but at least you will not be disappointed after getting your hopes up. I hate disappointment!
Am I going out on a limb by saying I think alot of times guys are not really sure what they want? I get advice from my girlfriends who say...oh play hard to get...that will make him really want you. Ok, let me just repeat myself in this blog I HATE playing games. (See -older blog-Dating is for the Birds) Doesn't this fall into a game category?? "Too often, the thing you want most is the one thing you can't have. Desire leaves us heartbroken , it wears us out. But as tough as wanting something can be, the people who suffer the most are the ones who don't know what they want." This is sooo true but it makes me feel a little bit better. Someone who flips back and forth - liking you one day and not liking you the next - is confused. Maybe they don't know what they want - they want to be single....they want to be in a relationship. They want to be with a blonde....they want to be with a brunette. The thing is...until they figure out what it is they want, do they have to take me on the emotional roller coaster ride as well? People like this should come equipped with an instruction manual as well as a HUGE warning label - "WARNING: People suffering from anxiety, over analyzing syndrome, fear of commitment and previous heartbreak...PROCEED WITH CAUTION. Be sure to Buckle Up because you are in for a bumpy ride. " A warning sign like this could be helpful for someone like me. I will be the first to tell you, in the end playing games that are at the cost of someone elses feelings will ultimately come back to bite you in the butt. You will either get hurt in a relationship down the line or eventually you will want the person back and want a second chance....but by then its to late. I believe in karma - what goes around comes around.
So I need some help here. Words mean nothing to me anymore because it seems like the ones that say all the right things are the ones that keep you guessing about whether or not they like you. It all goes back to that t-shirt -dont lie and tell me something because you think I want to hear it.
Now I am giving you a fair warning...if you are of the male gender and are reading this and decide to leave me a comment…tread carefully.
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