Instant Gratification
I am smiling right now…a HUGE smile. I just love it when an ex or someone you dated that blew you off tries to weasel their way back in. Do you know how good that feels? Their name and number suddenly appears on your phone and you find yourself wanting to pick up and answer - Thanks but no thanks…CLICK…. before even giving them a second to say hello!! (I know sometimes I can be so harsh) It’s the same kind of rush you get when you are out with your girlfriends, looking pretty cute in a brand new outfit that accentuates all the right areas and you happen to run into "the ex", who by the way is looking NOT so cute, and all of his friends that are with him are obviously thinking he was stupid to ever let you get away. Yep…this is instant gratification and boy does it feel good! My best friend told me once "Lee, they always come back around. Sometimes it takes a week, sometimes a couple of months or even years but they always come back." Ok maybe not always but some of the time they do.
Usually, there is a "look"…it is almost as if they are looking at you, trying to figure out exactly what happened that caused you not to be together. I guess guys have a good way of putting up a mental block. It’s like they were permanently drunk and blacked out the weeks, months, possibly years you were together so they conveniently can’t remember a thing. They are honestly curious as to why the relationship ended. Nope no way, this act does not fool me, the way I see it… he is secretly hoping he can look in your eyes and have this magical power to make you forget everything bad that happened in the relationship. Like the times he dissed you to watch the game, forgot to return your call, or hit on your best friend....all of these memories will be forever erased in your mind if only you gaze into his eyes. HA! Guys, we are women, do you honestly think we forget? That statement Forgive and Forget…sounds all nice, doesnt it?What a joke…a woman usually doesn’t forgive and even if by some slim chance she does… she NEVER forgets.
I can only think of two times that I actually went back out with someone a second time. Guess what? I didnt work! I can’t speak for everyone but I have realized if it didn’t work out the first time there is obviously a reason why…and normally it won’t work out the second (for some of you third, fourth or fifth) time either. I have come up with an easy solution to make sure I don’t fall into the traps of dating someone again and again, continuing to think that things will be different. Which by the way is very easy to do especially if you loved the person. I will share my secret with you - I bring out that trusty old journal that I kept while we were together – the first 3 pages dedicated to the happy times and the sweet things you did for me in the beginning – and here’s a shocker, 20 pages dedicated to you being an asshole. Flip towards the end and you will find my favorite part in the journal - 100 things I dislike about you! Let me remind you this was written in my state of rampage so I showed no mercy. Every little thing that you did or said to piss me off was written down in this wonderful book. Ahhh…the joys of writing ...
Usually, there is a "look"…it is almost as if they are looking at you, trying to figure out exactly what happened that caused you not to be together. I guess guys have a good way of putting up a mental block. It’s like they were permanently drunk and blacked out the weeks, months, possibly years you were together so they conveniently can’t remember a thing. They are honestly curious as to why the relationship ended. Nope no way, this act does not fool me, the way I see it… he is secretly hoping he can look in your eyes and have this magical power to make you forget everything bad that happened in the relationship. Like the times he dissed you to watch the game, forgot to return your call, or hit on your best friend....all of these memories will be forever erased in your mind if only you gaze into his eyes. HA! Guys, we are women, do you honestly think we forget? That statement Forgive and Forget…sounds all nice, doesnt it?What a joke…a woman usually doesn’t forgive and even if by some slim chance she does… she NEVER forgets.
I can only think of two times that I actually went back out with someone a second time. Guess what? I didnt work! I can’t speak for everyone but I have realized if it didn’t work out the first time there is obviously a reason why…and normally it won’t work out the second (for some of you third, fourth or fifth) time either. I have come up with an easy solution to make sure I don’t fall into the traps of dating someone again and again, continuing to think that things will be different. Which by the way is very easy to do especially if you loved the person. I will share my secret with you - I bring out that trusty old journal that I kept while we were together – the first 3 pages dedicated to the happy times and the sweet things you did for me in the beginning – and here’s a shocker, 20 pages dedicated to you being an asshole. Flip towards the end and you will find my favorite part in the journal - 100 things I dislike about you! Let me remind you this was written in my state of rampage so I showed no mercy. Every little thing that you did or said to piss me off was written down in this wonderful book. Ahhh…the joys of writing ...
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