The truth isnt always pretty...
Warning: The nature of this blog could be offensive to some females. If you are looking to find out the real truth on how some guys really think about girls and sex continue reading but I am warning you this could get ugly.
My friend A and I went to see that movie the Ugly Truth last weekend. It was a cute movie that left me wondering is this “just a movie” or could some of this possibly be true. Well, unfortunately last night I found my answer to that question. A and I went out to meet up with some guy friends at one of the local bars. We had some very interesting conversations of which I am about to share with you in hopes that it will shed some light on the male species… (not ALL of the male species just some)
First, I need to give you a little bit of background on the boys and how I met them.
A couple of months ago I was out for a bachelorette party at a local hotspot. I was on the dance floor when I noticed this guy who looked just like Robert Pattinson. His hair was a little different but something about him resembled my love, Edward Cullen. I marched right up to him with my camera and asked him if I could take a picture to send to all my Twilight crazed girlfriends. He immediately responded with “You think I look like that Robert Pattinson guy, don’t you?” A little cocky for my taste but I took the picture anyway, said thank you and started to walk away. I obviously offended him because he replied with “That’s rude you’re going to take my picture and not even introduce yourself.” So, from there we had a brief 5 minute conversation and he gave me his number (for the record I never called). Since I never use real names in my blog we will call guy number one – Rob P.
A introduced me to the other two guys about a month ago. I will admit one of the fellas caught my eye. He was very funny and we immediately hit it off. We were flirting the entire night and when it was time to leave he asked for my number. Of course the very next day A informed me “Alysia, he is a great guy but he is not boyfriend material.” I have had that conversation in the back of my head ever since then and wondered why she would think that. It was a warning she was giving me. He likes to tell people he resembles Brad Pitt. To be honest, I don’t see it but for the purpose of this blog we will call him Lil’Brad.
I also met the other guy the same night I was introduced to Lil Brad. He is the spitting image of Will Ferrell and has the exact same sense of humor as well. The second time we hung out (remember he knows I have been hanging out with Lil’ Brad) we were leaving and I went in to hug him goodbye and he came at me like he was going to give me an open mouth kiss. I was taken completely off guard, I turned my head and he said “What? That’s how I tell people goodbye.” Unbelievable!!
Anyways, to help paint this picture a little brighter (or possibly dimmer) all three of these guys, Rob P, Lil Brad and Will are roommates. So now that you know a little bit of how these guys look and how they operate we can move on to the juicy stuff. A and I had no idea we were in for such a treat when we went out with these guys the other night. Girls, let me just tell you when I left I was so livid (not necessarily at them directly) but just at the fact that this is the hand we are dealt and it just doesn’t seem fair. Guys and girls are held to much different standards and we all know that but hearing how a guys thought process really works on some of these issues just burned me up. – The quotes that actually came out of these boys mouths are listed in bold….
“I would not marry a girl who has slept with more than 8-10 people. I don’t want my future wife to be a slut.” ~ Rob P In Society, have we ever gotten an actual answer to the long standing question, why is it that a guy can sleep with 25+ women and be viewed as a pimp or someone with high social status but if a girl has more than 5 sexual partners she is labeled as a slut or whore? I’m not saying I condone sleeping around (because I don’t) but I do feel like it is a double standard.If ever girl had this outlook about men ...well lets just say there would be alot of guys that never tie the knot.
“If a girl has hooked up with a few of my friends I would sleep with her but probably never talk to her again after that. I definitely would not date her” ~ Will So you are in a new relationship with what you think is Mr. Prince Charming. He takes you out, buys you dinner, says all the right things but you soon learn that this Mr. Charming has at some point hooked up with two of your acquaintances/semi-friends. You are expected to act like it is no big deal because the past is the past, right?? So, you never bring it up after the initial conversation (but you and I both know it constantly remains in the back of your mind.) However, if a guy finds out you have hooked up with two of his fraternity brothers well that is probably why he is taking you out in the first place. You have hooked up with them so he doesn’t want to feel left out. He sleeps with you but never has any intentions of dating you – when I asked the guys why they wouldn’t date a girl that has been with their friends the response I got was “we are jealous in nature and will always be thinking about it…and that’s just weird.” Well, hello?? How do you think we feel when we find out youve been with our friends? We will constantly be thinking about whether our friend is a better kisser than we are....but heaven forbid that we allow THAT to be the reason why we dont date you.
If I hook up with you on the first or second time we hang out as soon as you leave I will be calling you a slut.” ~ Rob P It’s a fact – guys are going to talk. They may not have that dirty locker room talk but if they see you out and your name is brought up they will say things that you probably don’t want their entire entourage to find out about. How the word spreads soooo fast especially in a small town.
“None of us have had girlfriends in years. I want to be able to do what I want to do, when I want to do it.” ~ Lil Brad
Don’t misunderstand me on this issue and the point of this blog – I am not saying that since most guys have numerous sexual partners that we as women have the right to be just as sexually liberating. Yes, there is a double standard – it shows in these answers the guys gave…. But we are the ones who are condoning this habit of thinking BECAUSE so many girls are having sex (or doing everything but) with guys after the second or third time they have hung out. What’s the harm in waiting? Every girl should be a little pissed after reading this but it should make you a little bit more empowered and willing to wait.
Girls become emotionally involved A LOT sooner than guys and sometimes have the tendency to think if they get intimate the guy they will like them even more. Hopefully by reading this blog you can quickly see it’s just the opposite – the truth comes out. Boys are obviously going to have no problem hooking up with you…. but you better be prepared for the backlash – if you think it will end up with you both walking down the aisle, a white picket fence, and a little “minnie you” …you should go back and read through this blog AGAIN….
Guys have no respect for girls that don’t respect themselves.
Thanks to the three little pigs for allowing this “social experiment” - haha
My friend A and I went to see that movie the Ugly Truth last weekend. It was a cute movie that left me wondering is this “just a movie” or could some of this possibly be true. Well, unfortunately last night I found my answer to that question. A and I went out to meet up with some guy friends at one of the local bars. We had some very interesting conversations of which I am about to share with you in hopes that it will shed some light on the male species… (not ALL of the male species just some)
First, I need to give you a little bit of background on the boys and how I met them.
A couple of months ago I was out for a bachelorette party at a local hotspot. I was on the dance floor when I noticed this guy who looked just like Robert Pattinson. His hair was a little different but something about him resembled my love, Edward Cullen. I marched right up to him with my camera and asked him if I could take a picture to send to all my Twilight crazed girlfriends. He immediately responded with “You think I look like that Robert Pattinson guy, don’t you?” A little cocky for my taste but I took the picture anyway, said thank you and started to walk away. I obviously offended him because he replied with “That’s rude you’re going to take my picture and not even introduce yourself.” So, from there we had a brief 5 minute conversation and he gave me his number (for the record I never called). Since I never use real names in my blog we will call guy number one – Rob P.
A introduced me to the other two guys about a month ago. I will admit one of the fellas caught my eye. He was very funny and we immediately hit it off. We were flirting the entire night and when it was time to leave he asked for my number. Of course the very next day A informed me “Alysia, he is a great guy but he is not boyfriend material.” I have had that conversation in the back of my head ever since then and wondered why she would think that. It was a warning she was giving me. He likes to tell people he resembles Brad Pitt. To be honest, I don’t see it but for the purpose of this blog we will call him Lil’Brad.
I also met the other guy the same night I was introduced to Lil Brad. He is the spitting image of Will Ferrell and has the exact same sense of humor as well. The second time we hung out (remember he knows I have been hanging out with Lil’ Brad) we were leaving and I went in to hug him goodbye and he came at me like he was going to give me an open mouth kiss. I was taken completely off guard, I turned my head and he said “What? That’s how I tell people goodbye.” Unbelievable!!
Anyways, to help paint this picture a little brighter (or possibly dimmer) all three of these guys, Rob P, Lil Brad and Will are roommates. So now that you know a little bit of how these guys look and how they operate we can move on to the juicy stuff. A and I had no idea we were in for such a treat when we went out with these guys the other night. Girls, let me just tell you when I left I was so livid (not necessarily at them directly) but just at the fact that this is the hand we are dealt and it just doesn’t seem fair. Guys and girls are held to much different standards and we all know that but hearing how a guys thought process really works on some of these issues just burned me up. – The quotes that actually came out of these boys mouths are listed in bold….
“I would not marry a girl who has slept with more than 8-10 people. I don’t want my future wife to be a slut.” ~ Rob P In Society, have we ever gotten an actual answer to the long standing question, why is it that a guy can sleep with 25+ women and be viewed as a pimp or someone with high social status but if a girl has more than 5 sexual partners she is labeled as a slut or whore? I’m not saying I condone sleeping around (because I don’t) but I do feel like it is a double standard.If ever girl had this outlook about men ...well lets just say there would be alot of guys that never tie the knot.
“If a girl has hooked up with a few of my friends I would sleep with her but probably never talk to her again after that. I definitely would not date her” ~ Will So you are in a new relationship with what you think is Mr. Prince Charming. He takes you out, buys you dinner, says all the right things but you soon learn that this Mr. Charming has at some point hooked up with two of your acquaintances/semi-friends. You are expected to act like it is no big deal because the past is the past, right?? So, you never bring it up after the initial conversation (but you and I both know it constantly remains in the back of your mind.) However, if a guy finds out you have hooked up with two of his fraternity brothers well that is probably why he is taking you out in the first place. You have hooked up with them so he doesn’t want to feel left out. He sleeps with you but never has any intentions of dating you – when I asked the guys why they wouldn’t date a girl that has been with their friends the response I got was “we are jealous in nature and will always be thinking about it…and that’s just weird.” Well, hello?? How do you think we feel when we find out youve been with our friends? We will constantly be thinking about whether our friend is a better kisser than we are....but heaven forbid that we allow THAT to be the reason why we dont date you.
If I hook up with you on the first or second time we hang out as soon as you leave I will be calling you a slut.” ~ Rob P It’s a fact – guys are going to talk. They may not have that dirty locker room talk but if they see you out and your name is brought up they will say things that you probably don’t want their entire entourage to find out about. How the word spreads soooo fast especially in a small town.
“None of us have had girlfriends in years. I want to be able to do what I want to do, when I want to do it.” ~ Lil Brad
Don’t misunderstand me on this issue and the point of this blog – I am not saying that since most guys have numerous sexual partners that we as women have the right to be just as sexually liberating. Yes, there is a double standard – it shows in these answers the guys gave…. But we are the ones who are condoning this habit of thinking BECAUSE so many girls are having sex (or doing everything but) with guys after the second or third time they have hung out. What’s the harm in waiting? Every girl should be a little pissed after reading this but it should make you a little bit more empowered and willing to wait.
Girls become emotionally involved A LOT sooner than guys and sometimes have the tendency to think if they get intimate the guy they will like them even more. Hopefully by reading this blog you can quickly see it’s just the opposite – the truth comes out. Boys are obviously going to have no problem hooking up with you…. but you better be prepared for the backlash – if you think it will end up with you both walking down the aisle, a white picket fence, and a little “minnie you” …you should go back and read through this blog AGAIN….
Guys have no respect for girls that don’t respect themselves.
Thanks to the three little pigs for allowing this “social experiment” - haha
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